I’ve ranted on getting yourself some overall confidence plenty of times. It’s all fine and good, but it’s not supposed to come across like some Pinterest “fitspiration” bullshit. Stop and look in the mirror. Stop and look in your workout logs. Don’t just be proud of your inclusion in a worldwide shift in fitness, be damn proud of your own personal growth and journey. Look at the scars you’ve accumulated through perfecting your bar path and building that false grip. Look at how far your Snatch, Clean & Jerk, and Squats have come since you started lifting. I’ve worked with enough of you that didn’t know if that pullup would ever come, it did, along with 2, 3, 4, etc… I’ve worked with enough of you that didn’t know if you’d ever “understand” Cleans, then body weight Clean & Jerks came and went.
Every consumer industry that sells products to women is banking on you never celebrating these accomplishments or recognizing your progress. Your magazine subscriptions want you to keep searching for that article that will have the magic solution to whatever bullshit woes you have convinced yourself exist. Your favorite makeup brand is banking on you thinking your skin looks like shit now and forever. The entire clothing industry relishes in you hating yourself more when you’re outside of their products than when you’re wearing them.
In 1848 the first women’s rights convention was held in Seneca Falls, New York. I fucking promise in the time since then, you’ve gained more than the right to vote. I fucking promise that on January 1st, 2015 you’re allowed to think that you’re more than just “worthwhile.”
You know why guys seem so damn happy? Because we can flex in the mirror and convince ourselves that we’re the sexiest fucking creatures on the planet. Most of you could learn a thing or two from that and I promise that confidence in a woman is something that is VERY noted and significant.
Make the decision today to kill the fucking mentality that endlessly searches for everything that’s wrong with yourself. Make a paradigm shift that searches for everything that is right. Search for every positive quality, every goal met, and every accomplishment smashed.
If all that you focus on is what is wrong, what you don’t have, and what you want for, I promise that you will always suffer and be unhappy.
Positivity and appreciation in 2015.